Episode 2: Dear Princess ~ Why Do I Depend On Him So Much?

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Leah Says…

I think I depend too much on my boyfriend for my own happiness and confidence. I feel so happy when I’m around him, but the smallest thing, like not replying, can send me in to a horrible mood. I find myself wondering if he is cheating or not interested in me. I want to be more self-sufficient, and I think I need to rely on myself more for happiness, but I don’t know how to do this. I would also like to stop arguing with my boyfriend all the time—because if he can’t answer a text right away, it really isn’t his fault. Can you give me some advice?

Dear Leah,..

Thank you for writing to me with this problem. I think many of us depend on our partners for life, support, and even for happiness. The first step is to look at where you are within your life. Look back and ask yourself what your goals were a few years ago. Have you achieved them? If you haven’t, then I would go back to the drawing board and work out why those goals haven’t been successful. If you have surpassed them, it may be time for you to come up with some new goals to aim for. I would also try to find other avenues within your life with which you can occupy yourself when your partner isn’t around. For example, do you have a hobby? Do you have something you could be doing with your time when you are alone? You may also want to consider the possibility that you may be suffering from Identity crisis. mobile phone

I think it’s healthy for you to confront these problems now, as they could get worse in the future. I truly believe that once you find something for yourself—a hobby, a goal, a career choice, perhaps even an educational opportunity—you will depend less on your partner and will make yourself happy. That’s the end goal for all human beings—to make themselves happy.

If you have some burning questions that you would love for me to tackle, please log on to my website at theprincessofsuburbia.com. Go to my blog tab and click on Dear Princess… Send me an email. I look forward to hearing from you.

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Until next time, be inspired, be motivated, be of sentimental value, and be the hero in your own success rescue.

Bye for now.

Dr. Princess Fumi Hancock, BSN, MA, Ph.D, DNP.
Your Vision Midwife, Behavioral Health & Transformation
Interventionist turned Award Winning Filmmaker, TV/Radio Host
www.theprincessofsuburbia.com
BLOG: www.yourinneryou.com

Episode 1: Dear Princess ~ What’s In It For Me?

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Dear Princess …. What’s In It For Me?

What's In It For Me?
                           Caitlyn from Cary, North Carolina USA wrote in and asked this question:

                   “Dear Princess of Suburbia, all of my life, I have done things for people, without asking anything in return. Now, the more I reach out to help, the more I feel used, undermined, and devalued. I often end up giving away my last dime as the scriptures commands that we love each other. I am tired of doing and never getting a head way. A friend finally asked me my reason for doing all of these? And she tells me the way to really succeeding without being used is asking what’s in it for me? I am conflicted can you help me out Princess?”

                     Dear Caitlyn from Cary, North Carolina, my heart really goes out to you. I can certainly say that I know how it feels, when you are a blessing to others and you are constantly struggling to make ends meet.

So let’s tackle your question… Should you start asking what’s in it for me? This is indeed a tough one. Tough in that, the word of God tells us to be generous…it tells us to be our brother’s keeper… it tells us to love unconditionally… it tells us that why tell someone to come back when what they need is right in our hands… However, we also have to use wisdom in all that we do. Though everything in life may seem permissible… that does not mean that you are meant to do it in that season.

Here is a litmus test for you darling Caitlyn, rather than ask what’s in it for me, ask this: Lord are you calling me to get involve in this situation? Is this a situation I am meant to get involved in? What’s in it for me has a derogatory tone to it… it gives the assumption of a selfish, self-centered heart. In the same token,when asked in the right way, it can help you to really cut through unnecessary traffic maneuvering their way in your life…

So you have someone who brought a proposal to you. YOU ARE A WRITER… This season, you know all you are supposed to be doing is working in that capacity and getting yourself grounded. Then someone comes to you and tells you they have a business proposal for you… and the proposal has nothing to do with what you are supposed to be doing… Rather than ask what’s in it for me, you ask, how does this progress my vision and life purpose? What’s in it for me can be turned into a positive connotation… How does this progress my vision. Sadly, many of us are so busy.. involved in so many rings which are taking us away from exactly what we know we should be doing.

My Vision Nugget for Today:
Clean out your closet. Get rid of those things which are not progressing your core vision. Rather than ask what is in it for me, ask this… how is this progressing my vision? How is it going to take me from where I am to where I desire to be. And once you it figure that it is not beneficial to your cause… move away from it and quit wasting time.

If you have some burning questions that you would love for me to tackle, please log on to my website at theprincessofsuburbia.com. Go to my blog tab and click on Dear Princess… Send me an email. I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next time, be inspired, be motivated, be of sentimental value, and be authentic.

Bye for now.

Dr. Princess Fumi Hancock, BSN, MA, Ph.D, DNP.
Your Vision Midwife, Behavioral Health & Transformation
Interventionist turned Award Winning Filmmaker, TV/Radio Host
www.theprincessofsuburbia.com
BLOG: www.yourinneryou.com

Welcome to Dear Princess Column!

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Mental Health Awareness & Wellness Mission

About Dr. Princess Fumi S. Hancock & Her Mission for Global Mental Health Awareness:

Dr. Princess Fumi Stephanie Hancock is a Behavioral Health Specialist with a DNP  (Doctor of Nurse Practice) specializing in Psychiatric-Mental Health. She also holds a Ph.D. in Strategic Communications and advanced degree in Writing for the Media Arts (TV/Films).

While living in New York & New Jersey in the late 1980’s, she implemented several programs for women and children with many Social Service Agencies, including the New York City Welfare Administration.  Her programs ranged from foster care, adoption, to second chance homes for pregnant teenagers, programs for battered women & the aged.

Dr. Princess Fumi S. Hancock started her career in the Mental Health field as a Social Worker & Social-conscious Writer (focusing on social welfare). Due to her frustration of not being able to provide a holistic care for her patients, who come to her with multiple diagnoses and the harsh confrontation met while writing within the confinements of New York City, Staten Island, New Jersey, and California, she resigned as the President of an Health Care Agency and headed for Nursing school.

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